NARM (NeuroAffective Relational Model)
NARM focuses on developmental trauma and attachment wounds—how survival strategies shape identity, emotion, and connection, and how to move toward more freedom and choice.
There’s no single “right” therapy—many people benefit from a blend, or a sequence, over time. What matters most is a pace that feels steady and supportive.
Who typically provides this?
Typically provided by licensed therapists with specialized NARM training.
Training note
NARM is a specific model. Ask whether the provider has formal NARM training and how they integrate nervous-system work with relational patterns.
Learn about credentials & training →What sessions can look like
- Explore present-day patterns (not only the past)
- Work with shame, identity, and relational strategies with compassion
- Track nervous system shifts and meaning-making in real time
Often helpful for
- Developmental trauma
- Chronic shame
- Relational patterns
- Freeze/collapse states
Good fit if…
- You want depth work with nervous-system awareness
- You’re curious about long-standing patterns
- You want support building healthier connection and self-trust
If this feels hard right now, that’s okay
Sometimes the best next step is choosing the right pace and support level first—then building from there.
- You’re seeking a quick, skills-only program as the primary focus (DBT/CBT may be a better starting step)
If you want help choosing a steady starting point, the quiz can narrow the field fast.
Questions you can bring to a first session
You don’t have to ask all of these—pick the ones that would help you feel confident and supported.
- What does a typical session look like with you?
- How will we set goals—and how will we know if things are improving?
- If something feels too fast or too intense, how do you adjust pace and support?
- How do you tailor this approach to my needs, identity, and preferences?
- What is your training in NARM, and how do you integrate it with nervous-system education?
- How do you work with shame/identity patterns in a steady way?
Educational only. Not medical advice. If you’re in immediate danger, call 911 or your local emergency number.