Gottman Method Couples Therapy
A research-informed couples approach that strengthens friendship, builds conflict tools, and supports shared meaning—so both partners feel more understood and connected.
There’s no single “right” therapy—many people benefit from a blend, or a sequence, over time. What matters most is a pace that feels steady and supportive.
Who typically provides this?
Provided by licensed therapists; Gottman training varies by level.
Training note
Gottman Method has different training levels. If this matters to you, ask what level they’ve completed and how they structure couples work.
Learn about credentials & training →What sessions can look like
- Assessment + mapping conflict patterns
- Communication tools and repair strategies
- Building rituals of connection and shared goals
Often helpful for
- Couples conflict
- Communication breakdown
- Trust repair (case-by-case)
- Life transitions
Good fit if…
- You want practical relationship tools
- Both partners can participate consistently
- You’re open to practicing skills between sessions
If this feels hard right now, that’s okay
Sometimes the best next step is choosing the right pace and support level first—then building from there.
- There is ongoing abuse or coercive control—safety planning and individual support come first
If you want help choosing a steady starting point, the quiz can narrow the field fast.
Questions you can bring to a first session
You don’t have to ask all of these—pick the ones that would help you feel confident and supported.
- What does a typical session look like with you?
- How will we set goals—and how will we know if things are improving?
- If something feels too fast or too intense, how do you adjust pace and support?
- How do you tailor this approach to my needs, identity, and preferences?
- What Gottman training level have you completed?
- How do you structure couples work (assessment, homework, session flow)?
Safety notes+
- Couples therapy isn’t recommended when active coercive control is present.
Educational only. Not medical advice. If you’re in immediate danger, call 911 or your local emergency number.